The one constant in life, is change. Whether that is to do with the climate, economic instability, relationships, getting older, changing jobs, moving home, beliefs, education, illness, bereavement…. I could go on. Sometimes that change can be challenging and unwelcome, and at other times we long for it.
But how do we react positively to change, rather than allowing it to overwhelm us? The key is recognising that you have choices. Even if you didn’t choose the event or circumstances that are bringing the change, you can choose how you respond.
Your life is made up of millions and millions of ‘now’ moments. From the moment you came into this world until right now, there have been opportunities, choices and actions that you took, or didn’t take, that have affected your life in small or not so small ways. Some of those actions and choices have been taken on your behalf, and others, as you have grown older, you have made yourself.
But quite probably – and this is the significant bit – many of your past ‘now’ moments have come about without any conscious awareness on your part. We all just allow things to happen, and then look back sometimes with regret.
The point is, regardless of everything that has taken place up until this point, you are where you are today, and you cannot change that. But you can change your future ‘now’s. You can become more consciously aware of the choices you make and become clear about how you would like your life to be in one year, five years, 10 years from today.
Becoming more consciously aware involves thinking about the words we say, changing our thought patterns and our behaviours , which will in turn change our attitude to life and consequently, the circumstances of our life.
It begins with a conscious decision to be the person you want to be – right now. And once you learn to consciously live in the ‘now’, you can make conscious decisions about the future, based on what you know you can achieve, rather than being tossed about like a small boat in a gale force wind.
So regardless of your past, I invite you to make a conscious decision to do the following:
Accept what has gone before without blame, guilt or criticism
Consider how you would like your life to be – say five years from now.
Keep a note of your thought patterns, words and actions, turning negative behaviours into positive ones.
- “What can I learn from my past?”
- “What can I learn from what is happening to me right now?”
Make decisions based on what you want, not based on what you don’t want.
With every crossroads you come to in life, consider, which course of action will get you to where you want to be?
Find someone who will support you in your decision to create a beautiful life for yourself.
By doing each of these things in a conscious way, being fully aware of your choices and decisions, you will be well on your way to living in the now and creating a beautiful life for yourself. You can adapt well to change and turn your life around in exciting and positive ways.